Hi Debbie, we’re expecting deep snow and extremely cold temperatures with lots of wind. I’m sorry you’re going through so much emotional distress right now. I’m sure that God has a plan for you, it’s hard to imagine that with what’s been happening lately to you stay strong my dear friend. I know that’s hard to do at times. I’ve been very sick with intestinal flu for more than a week but praise God I’m feeling better. Your fire looks warm and inviting, I hope it keeps you warm enough, so stay warm, sing and praise the Lord, you can have a prayer and praise service right in front of your fire, I love you Debbie! Reply
I’m so sorry that you have been so sick. I hope by now you’re feeling better. If your getting some of this snow that’s hitting please stay warm. Reply
I’m sad that all this is hitting you at once, but I’m glad that you’re trusting in God’s provision. He will always make a way. Remember you are blessed with so many friends who care for you and who are praying for you as well. Sending love and hugs. ❤️🙏💐 Reply
I’m sad that all this is hitting you at once, but I’m glad that you’re trusting in God’s provision. He will always make a way. Remember you are blessed with so many friends who care for you and who are praying for you as well. Sending love and hugs. ❤️🙏💐 Reply
Oh Debbie life isn’t easy that’s for sure. I also question why he isn’t responsible for some of the debts. Do you have a attorney to figure out what he’s liable for. What about alimony? He’s working & drawing a pay check or is he back to his old ways? Please trust in your faith contact the local county to see if your eligible for any kind of assistance. Love & prayers Reply
The home is in my name, only the loan and the deed, so the debt is mine because the equity is all mine. No alimony to be paid because I worked for 29 years of our marriage he has offered to help with certain things, but I have refused to help because it only opens the door to him thinking there’s a future and I just can’t do that. I’m just not built that way. Anyway I’m gearing up for cool weather frigid weather actually so I’m gathering up all the firewood. I can in case the power goes out so that I do have some kind of heat. My heat is acting up and cycling so I haven’t had it on very much. I can’t afford it to be honest, but there are mornings that I turned it on, but it’s cycles off and on and off and on, so I really just been using the fireplace for most of my heat sources at the present moment you know when it rains it pours but things are gonna get better. You stay warm. I don’t know if the storm is coming your way, but you take care Reply
Debbie, I pray you stay safe in this ice and snow storm that on it’s way. I live in Oklahoma and my daughter lives in Houston the weather is going to be bad. Stay warm. I was married for 18 years and it was hard to make sure my daughter and I were taken care of. I was blessed with a man that took care of us and we had a son. We have been together for years now. I really believe God had his hands on me. God has his hands on you also. I will pray that God makes things better for you. Reply
Debbie, I pray you stay safe in this ice and snow storm that on it’s way. I live in Oklahoma and my daughter lives in Houston the weather is going to be bad. Stay warm. I was married for 18 years and it was hard to make sure my daughter and I were taken care of. I was blessed with a man that took care of us and we had a son. We have been together for years now. I really believe God had his hands on me. God has his hands on you also. I will pray that God makes things better for you. Reply
Dear Debbie. So sorry your getting divorced after so many years. I know you have been there for Mr. Shabby through some tough years. Prayers things start getting better for you.🙏🙏🙏I did some ads.Have a good rest of your week. Going to be 30 below zero here in Michigan the next few days.with the wind chill.🥶🥶🥶 Reply
Thank you for that. It has been an extremely hard decision on my part after 45 years. I have been here for him through thick and thin. He is not back to his old way still clean but things between us had changed drastically and we were both very unhappy more so me. He would come back at this time if I ask, but that’s just not gonna happen right now I don’t know if it ever will. Times are hard, but my peace of mind is awesome. Stay warm. I don’t know where you are but it looks like this winter storm is gonna be a beast. Reply
It absolutely sounds like God had his hand on you. Legally, this Home is in my name only so it belongs to me and Mr. shabby really isn’t responsible for any of it as far as alimony goes I worked for 29 years of our marriage so I don’t think he would be responsible for paying any alimony. I didn’t ask the attorney but one didn’t mention it either he has offered to help, but I have refused that help because I don’t want to open the door to opportunity in his mind so when I said I wanted to be on my own, I really meant to be on my own. You stay warm because you’re right we have some cold temperatures coming. I hope your daughter and her family stay warm as well. Reply
If you can find a used appliance store in your area they were a lifesaver for me many times. Some stores also have the dent ones marked down. And of course Marketplace. I supplement our food with going to places that offer free food. We have a place in our town that offers food every Thursday, you just pull up and they place it in your car. It’s extremely tough living these days. Reply
We have used appliance stores here. I just don’t have the funds at all right now and it just isn’t really that important to me. I don’t eat a whole lot. I know I need to eat more and I will, but I don’t at the present moment and this very large cooler is keeping the few things I have that need to be cold just fine. Everything else is just non-perishable salt for that part I’m good. I’m more interested in getting someone to look at the heat that keeps recycling off and on that I am a refrigerator at the moment but when the time comes, I will probably look on the marketplace and find a decent used one the one I had was used. Have a good evening and stay warm OK Reply
Dear Debbie, your financial situation is so concerning 💔 Why isn’t mr shabby helping after 45 years? Prayers continue for you 🙏 ❤️ Reply
I think he feels he is no longer here this is my home and my responsibility. I’ve not ask him for help and will not. That would open a door to him in his mind. Sad but truth! I’m good just have days of feeling down. Thank you dear for you comment Reply
Good evening, my friend Mr. shabby has offered to pay some things to help me out, but I’ve closed the door to that because if I let that be open, then he still feels part of our marriage, gonna think that we can reconcile. At this time in my life, I don’t see that happening so I don’t want him to get the wrong idea and it’s best that I just wing it on my own as I said this house is mine. It’s in my name, the deed and the loan so all of the equity is mine because I paid for the vast majority of it during his drug years when he was gone for weeks at a time and didn’t have a job. He has not gone back to his old way. He is still sober and of that I’m thankful very much so he does have some health issues and I pray for him and I hope all of you will too. I’m just not a vengeful person. That’s just not my nature anyway if the storm is coming in your direction, please stay warm. Reply
I truly hope things start shaping up for you!! Gosh…..you need a break girl! As I sit here, at home in Florida, I can’t help but worry about my 5 grown children and 11 grandkids that are ALL in the wake of this potential disastrous snow/ice storm. Praying it’s not as bad as it looks. I pray your safe ….I know you’ll be getting some of it as well! Keep positive Deb….wishing you nothing but the best every day! Xo Reply
Thank you, I also wish your children well and everybody in the line of this brutal storm that is supposed to hit prayerfully here in Alabama. We won’t get that much but I know your children live north just stay positive my friend the same thing that I’m doing here. Reply
Hi Debbie I understand the financial struggles as I had to quit my cleaning business at 74 as physically couldn’t do it so here in Canada trust me it’s so expensive for everything and house taxes are above 6500 a yr..anyways the world has gone mad and wondering if yoy could get a roommate or college student until spring yo sell anyways wishing you much love and stay strong Reply
I hear you and I know that you understand or you definitely seem to. I don’t want to entertain a roommate or someone that I do not know in my home. No absolutely not for me. It’s not for me. I am getting by nicely. Still having bad days, but it has nothing to do with just what’s going on in my home. That’s only part of it. Just a divorce after all these years, I’ve been married 46 years in April of this year just going through what I am. Let me know that I’m stronger than I thought I was. As I said, I do have my bad days and I try very hard not to allow myself to be angry, and I definitely don’t want to let myself be bitter ever! These things happen to all of us from time to time things breakdown when you own a home there’s always something to do. I think it’s just that everything seem to have hit one after the other that took me back for a minute. I hope that you’re doing well. It says anonymous so I’m not sure who I’m talking to. I have a feeling I do but anyway have a blessed Thursday. Thank you for your comment and God bless you. Reply