Thank you so much for being patient, the story continues where we left off Saturday.
Well, I left you all hanging, didn’t I? That was not my intentions, I promise you. Mr. Shabby suprised me totally by coming home after our chat about me moving there or, well, nothing that was it I had to move there with him. I was not sold on that idea at all and very upset that he was getting ready to graduate and now he tells me this. Talk about dropping a bomb on me, BOOM!
I left you from here that day as I was typing to you about what he has said, he knocked on the door. I thought to myself now who can that be NEVER in a million years did I think it would be him. Not his style at all to say you need to do this then backtrack. So, here goes! He came in and said we need to talk and I wanted to do it in person. I realize that I upset you and I am sorry for that, the way I said it was wrong, I left you thinking that was what you had to do or we were done. That is not what I want Debbie, I was wrong. He said we had decided that I would stay one more year once I got out of rehab. He was right we did, I did! I wanted to make certain that he could or would stay clean yet another year unsupervised, that was huge for me. Ok, back to him, he said we will figure out a way for us to finish out the rest of our lives together once I show you for the next year that I am done with drugs, period.
I said I hear you but, I am not sure exactly what you mean by we will be together if you are there in a year and I am here. He said I know your life is here, all but me. I also know that you have gone on with your life the two years I was away using and being a mess. You have lived here 63 years, the children are here our grandchildren are here your friends and everything you know!! WOW, blow me away he gets it he really gets it, finally. My life is here all but him!
He said what if we moved and got a one-level home, get rid of all these stairs. As well as something smaller and not as expensive, maybe 30 minutes from here and that puts me 40 minutes or so from my job and the very place and people that helped me to find myself? What do you think about that? My mind is like?? To be honest, I thought ok, who are you and where is my Mr. Shabby the one that never gave things to much thought and waited for me to take care of it the last few years we were together. GONE, for good I pray!
I said that would work for me, 30 minutes is nothing. He agreed and said well it would be a fresh start too, a new place just us, no kids this time, just visits from them, lol.
So, as far as I am concerned this is the plan unless God changes it, and He just might we never know. Now, I want to share why it took me 5 days to finish. Next week, I pray next week I will know tomorrow, I will be having surgery to get this gallbladder OUT! After 10 years of pampering it eating this and that to help it, it said no! I was in pain and have been in pain can not eat but very little a day and I mean very little since last Sunday.
Well, it started on Saturday when Mr. Shabby and I went to get a milkshake, dairy rocked my gallbladder and sent me into an attack that has not left yet. I have been housebound pretty much since Sunday night when my son and I returned home from Mr. Shabby’s graduation. I have an appointment at 9:15 AM. I am an awful patient, and my last few things I had done did not go well at all. So, I am and have been praying that the Lord will get me through this with flying colors and finally I can just live my life. One without all these restrictions (food) every day! I know that for a while I will have to watch what I eat or drink rather, lol. I also know that a lot of fatty foods do not sit well with the gut when we have no gallbladder just like when it is not working like mine. Now you know it was not me just not caring I was just not feeling well at all and was not in a place where I felt like sharing, forgive me.
The one thing I will leave you with is this, I do not share my life so pitty, I share it because years ago the Lord said, tell your story, share it. If you know me you have read that. I said No, to God I can’t, but He kept on and insisted really, so I share because of the Lord. He said there will be those that need it, those that live it and those that will pray for you along your journey, so I did almost 8 years ago and He has been pouring out His Grace and love over me since I did as He asked.
Have a blessed and enjoyable day, we love you and I am always here for any of you that need prayer, or just to talk.
Love,
Debbie
Prayers for your life decisions and your gallbladder. I have had gallbladder issues for years- and I remember thinking I could not wait the 3 months before I had the surgery. Some things that have helped: I/2 lemon in a glass of water daily help to prevent the attack from occurring. When I do eat something that triggers an attack flax seed tea quickly resolved it. https://keepingmygallby.wordpress.com/2012/02/11/flaxseed-tea-for-gallbladder-pain/ And then I went on the Nemechek protocol for different reasons, but a happy result is that my gallbladder has healed almost completely. I tell you this just in case someone else can be helped, or if you have another attack before your surgery. All the best…By the way- I never did have to have that surgery…
Carla, thank you! I do not have sludge or gallstones they say but something with it just is not working right. I will try these and see. I have and do drink Peppermint Tea for the pain and Braggs Apple Cider Vinegar, every day. I too have done all that I know to do to get it healthy again without having to have it removed. Prayed for healing and still believing! Have a wonderful weekend.
Love,
Debbie
I love reading your story. Celebrated 47 years of marriage in tears. My husband is a TBI survivor and heart and stroke patient. Previously he was diagnosed as bi-polar but took himself off of medication several years ago. So his mood swings are unpredictable. He feels his disabilities outweigh his abilities. Anyway reading your story gives me hope and I know God is always by my side. But more importantly I know God can change my husband and I pray one day he will accept Jesus as his savior.
Thank you,
Amy
Amy, I am happy to hear that my story helped you. God can heal him, what he has is an illness beyond his control. Bi-polar is such an evil beast it can ruin lives. Medication helps but, I worked for 7 psychiatrists for a few years at night with a daytime job as well. I did their medical transcribing and I learned a lot. It can be bad to very bad with mood swings, out of control rages so many things. I will keep you and your husband for you, peace of mind and joy, for him healing or an understand that medications can help to control the effects the illness often brings. ((hugs)) to you and hang in there. I will also pray that your husband finds and accepts Jesus Christ as his personal savior, so very important here. I agree with you in prayer for this, Amy!
Love,
Debbie
Oh,Debbie, I pray you have the life you and Mr. Shabby, so deserve. I pray your gall bladder surgery goes as well as mine did a few years ago. Please know you both are in my prayers daily. In His Love, Mary.
Thank you, Mary. I have been praying for healing for a while and doing all that I knew to heal it but, nothing lasts long. Still praying for healing before the surgery day! Have a wonderful weekend.
Love,
Debbie
Praying your Dr. appt. went well this morn., and that healing, of that nasty gall bladder situation, will go quickly.
Mr. Shabby’s offer to meet in the middle sounds SO MUCH better to me, than where you live vs. where he currently is.
You get SO many comments and unsolicited advise that you probably don’t remember, but I suggested months ago that if you did sell your home…it sure would be nice to build a smaller home together, that would be uniquely both of yours …what fun, and to make a fresh start, somewhere in between!! (And live trap some of your bunnies in your yard to take in your new yard! <3 ) Same could be said for a smaller house that you could purchase with the sale of your current, big, beautiful home!
BLESSINGS & Prayers for healing, of body, mind and soul….you have been through a long, stressful, struggle and surely deserve a new peace filled life……Don't forget that YOU, my friend, are the child of a KING!
<3
Thank you, Carol, as it should be right? Meeting in the middle give and take! Selling here and building might just be the things we end up doing. Have a wonderful weekend.
Love,
Debbie
Wow, Debbie, no wonder it took a few days before you could continue your blog! I am thrilled that you and Mr.Shabby are working out the future plans! Bless your heart for such suffering from your gallbladder! I will continue to keep you in my thoughts prayers, friend! May you have a speedy recovery! Love and blessings, Susan
Thank you, Susan, I tell you what getting older is not for sissies that is a given! This gallbladder has about kicked my tail! I have prayed for healing take herbs herbal tea at a soft diet, and it will get better for a bit but then it goes back to the pain in my side, my back, shoulders, and tummy! No stones or sludge just pain, go figure it doesn’t work well anymore. Again, I thank you, again Have a good weekend.
Love,
Debbie
I had my gallbladder out last year in November and it has been such a blessing. It took too about 8 months for my gastro issues to go away/settle down. My surgeon said some people’s body takes less and some longer. It was laparoscopic so the healing time was very short. God Bless you and your husband during the days to come. I was married to an alcoholic/drug addict for 25 years. I truly understand.
Deb, so glad that you are better. I have such a weak stomach so I’d not be surprised if it takes me a bit to get my body right. I’d love for it to just go away on its own but, not going to happen. Have a great weekend.
Love,
Debbie
I had my gallbladder out last year in November and it has been such a blessing. It took too about 8 months for my gastro issues to go away/settle down. My surgeon said some people’s body takes less and some longer. It was laparoscopic so the healing time was very short. God Bless you and your husband during the days to come.
Prayers for you for your operation. Hopefully this will cure all the pain. God Bless you and Mr. Shabby. I hope that it will
work out for you with the move and his recovery. I had a close relative that passed away from a drug overdose. Lived for years
with the in and out of rehab. Staying clean for a year at a time then back to it. It is a horrible life to live for the addict and the family.
I pray that Mr. Shabby can beat this demon that he carries with him. May the Lord take the demon away and you both can live
a “Happily Ever After”. ♥
Deea, we just seem to be on the battlefield here lately. The devil wants us both because he knows we have a lot ot offer others about finding their way to Christ. He doesn’t go after the ones that are evil he has them! Not that we are perfect we are sinners that know God loves us and we know Jesus Christ as our personal Lord and Savior the devil hate’s that! You have a wonderful weekend.
Love,
Debbie
Debbie,
While you ahve been sharing with us, God has cotinued to work in you also. There is a peace about you that can
only come from a deep personal relationship with Christ. Don’t ever think God is not using you, as long as you stay
pliant, he will bend you and mold you even more all for His glory.
I will continue to pray for you and your family as well as Mr. Shabby.
May God continue to bless you!!!
Oh, Sharon, He has done a work in me trust me on that. I have come to lean on Him for everything! I mean everything too. Thank you, for your prayers, I too have prayed for healing and not have to have it removed since there are no stones or sludge just one that has some kind of issue! Have a great weekend.
Love,
Debbie
I pray blessings for you and Mr. Shabby in the future! Also for a quick easy recovery with your gall bladder surgery, thanks for sharing your life with us!
Debera, thank you, sweet friend! Have a blessed weekend.
Love,
Debbie
I will be praying for you and a beautiful recovery. I believe you will feel so much better and take time to get all the rest and care you need. Things are looking up! Thank you for sharing your story. I was just thinking the other night that we should be here for each other, to cheer each other on in life and pray for one another. Be blessed, be hopeful and be joyful!
Linda, Amen things are looking up, just a bump in the road. ((( Hugs))) have a good weekend.
Love,
Debbie
I am so glad this visit with Mr. Shabby went so well. I was imaging all sorts of unhappy things. I will be praying for you and your gall bladder surgery. Please have someone post updates after the surgery.
Barbara, I am so sorry, I was not feeling good for days my gallbladder put me down after Mr. Shabby left Sunday AM it took me a while to feel like writing I never meant to leave you all hanging like that. Have a wonderful weekend.
Love,
Debbie
Praying for you Ms Debbie. You will feel so much better once you get that gall bladder out you won’t even believe it! We all love you and we also love that you have bared your soul to us. You have helped so many people thru the years. Keep doing as the Lord leads and keep talking to us!
Much love,
Geri
Geri, I hope so I have such tummy issues, I am praying that I never miss a beat once it is out and all is well. Thank you, so much. Have a good weekend.
Love,
Debbie
Debbie, I just wanted to let you know that I will pray your surgery goes well, and that you have a speedy recovery.
Dear Debbie,
I will be praying for you that all goes well, that you are able to have the surgery soon and that your recovery will be quick. God Bless you and thank you for sharing your journey. love Elaine
Debbie, I am so happy that you got to see this turn around in Mr Shabby! Such a blessing for both of you ♡ And I hope your surgery is scheduled soon.
Peace ♡
Debbie, prayers for your healing from your gallbladder surgery. Also thank you for sharing your story. It has been a blessing to me. My husband is a recovery alcoholic. Also Veteran of the Vietnam war. God’s Peace.
Susan (((hugs))) to you my FB friend. I can say I understand some of that. We as wives do the best we can with it, that I know for sure. Thank you, for the prayers for my upcoming surgery. I may be away from here a few days so you ladies will know I am recovering. God bless you, Susan, I pray for your Peace in Him as well.
Love,
Debbie
I wish you the best Debbie! I had my gallbladder removed several years ago and in my case, everything went well. I pray the same for you!! I hope your personal life gets to be everything you want it to be!!
Barbara, thank you! My personal life has been a roller coaster for sure. But, it has for sure lead me to God so for that I am forever grateful. I am glad to hear that your surgery went good with no issues that is encouraging to me. God bless, have a wonderful Thursday.
Love,
Debbie