Does forgiving someone that hurt you mean you also forget that hurt and trust them again? The Bible mentions forgiveness in numerous verses throughout the Bible. Matthew 6:14 and Ephesians 4:32) are just two I’ll share. Unforgiveness can hinder your relationship with God. It can cause bitterness that gets deep-rooted and causes unhappiness in you. Forgiveness is what God wants us to do, as He forgives us for the things we need His forgiveness for. Let’s be real we all need forgiveness at some point in life. But, does forgiving mean you have to forget the pain someone may have caused you and those feelings of anger may have caused you for weeks, years, or even decades? No, the Bible doesn’t tell us that to forgive is to forget. However, once we have truly forgiven in time, we learn to let go of the pain, hurt, etc. That’s one of the gifts that I think comes from God when we forgive. You have heard the saying unforgiveness is like drinking poison but expecting it to affect the one that caused your hurt/anger. It never bothers them, they have moved on and you’re stuck on your own emotional roller coaster.
I’ve had to forgive things that cut me so deep I still hurt from it, but, I have forgiven and still pray for those that betray me. I had to love myself enough to let go of what was hurting me over and over again in my mind. What is done once can hurt you one million times in your mind, it can play out over and over. Learning to let it go and allowing God to have it, a little piece at a time will be a huge blessing to your heart and your health, as well as your emotions. No matter who it was, or what they have done, forgive from your heart and ask God to assist you with that forgiveness. It is impossible to go to the Lord God for forgiveness for yourself when hold so much unforgiviness for others in your heart. It all sounds good on paper, and it is no easy task for many. It wasn’t for me. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, forgive the ones that hurt me so deeply. It’s a process of ongoing understanding of what true forgiveness can do for you and your life. It truly is amazing.
If you can’t let go of that hurt start by praying for God to show you how to release it and forgive. Each day thank Him for helping you to forgive those that you need to forgive. Then if you still harbor ill will after a time of forgiveness ask God to help you let it go, He will, and oh how much better you will feel without that bitterness eating you alive. Trust me here, ok? I talk the talk because I have walked that walk. Have a blessed Monday!
Thank you Debbie, these words are so true. I have been forgiven, I must forgive others who have hurt me. I enjoy reading your posts.
Amen Cheryl, we do dear. Have a blessed Wednesday!
So very true. Watching a situation now where there is no forgiveness. I pray daily the parties involved can move forward and forgive. God provides a way for us if we only take it.
Leisa, I hope that happens as well, dear.
What an awesome read. All so true.
Gretchen, I am glad you enjoyed it. I tell you many times my dyslexia makes it so hard for me to stay focused while making sure things are correct, but I do it anyway. Have a blessed afternoon.
Oh ! I could write a book on forgiveness I think( we all could I’m sure) , Not an easy thing to do at times but very necessary., for ourselves and our salvation. It is a true journey in life. Thank you for sharing ❤️🙏
Renee, I think most of us could my sweet friend! Have a blessed day
Thank you for reminding me of the importance of forgiving others. It’s very hard to forgive when you know the behavior and attitude of another will never change toward you. But, God expects us to rise above our pride and forgive and release the bitterness.
Carolyn, well said.
As always your posting touches on my life and my heart. I too have been hurt and angry and given up on people but God spoke to my heart and before the most important people in my life passed I had forgiven them in my heart. And the ones now are in my prayers. I am hurt and yes angry but in my heart will always forgive them. It’s taken years to get here and I’ve given it over to God only to take it back again but now it’s with God. I have a wonderful husband now who has strengthened my love of God and has given me confidence in myself and my decisions.
I can take years that for sure, it did for me as well. I am still a work in progress. Have a blessed evening, and thank you for shaing.
This is so hard to do. Especially when they continue with the bad behavior. I have had to let go and move on. Completely remove myself from the situation..
Susan, there are times in my life and most likely the readers here too that removing ourselves from some was the only way to find peace of mind at that time! I still forgave and prayed for them, for God perfect will over their lives, their health etc. But, stayed away for a longtime, and for some our season had past. Have a blessed evening, and thank you for shaing, I love to read all of the comments
So true, well put.❤️🙏
So very well said and explained. Thank you for sharing.
Every word is soo true. Huge hug
Right back at you sweet friend ((((hugs))))
Thanks for sharing this important step in life. Without God, I could not have forgiven some hurts I have experienced in my life. It took me a long time to let go, but I have.
Amen
It is hard to forgive and totally forgetting is next to impossible. God does it daily so we are to try and be more like him.
Yes, but we can forgive through Christ Jesus, and eventually the memories do not hurt anymore, or as bad.
Forgiveness is letting them go to let God!
23 years ago I left an abusive marriage..my heart was full of hate for the man that abused me and my children I wished that man dead on many occasion…
In January of this year he had a stroke and the emotions I found myself praising God for it and immediately repented as well ..In that moment God started healing that hate ..Gods grace..
In April I was able to see this man in the hospital and pray with him..before I got there I prayed and ask God if I was the one to lead him to Him to please provide an opportunity for me to do so..at that time He didn’t..God chose that moment to completely heal my heart of the hate..I was able to pray with him with a pure heart..Gods Grace..
Tuesday June 27 his health was failing and I went with my kids to the hospital..Mike wrote me a note saying he had 3 days to live..I took the pen and paper from him..took his hand and asked him if he knew Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior and had asked him into his heart..and asked Him to forgive him of his sins.
Mike shook his head no and at that moment God lead the way for me to pray with him and lead him to Him. Once I finished praying I patted him on the chest and told him I would see him in heaven and he smiled. Gods Grace..Gods timing, Gods love.
This morning June 28 Mike is sitting in heaven!
Romans 8:28
“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”
Praise The Lord! Oh, Pat this touched me so much. God bless you for forgiving, but for leading someone that hurt you and your children to CHRIST.. (((Hugs))))