Abide in God, and He will abide in you. You both are His precious children and oh so truly loved! Thank you for sharing your heart and life with us – with me! Sue Reply
Susan, yes indeed. Sometimes I think people think me sharing is easy, you know what? It is not and never has been. God started this, He said I want you to share something a few years back, people need to know they are not alone. I said NO, Lord please not that. He was persistent and I did as He asked. From that day forward He has poured His grace over me each time I share hard, hurtful, shameful things in my life. He wants others to know that my life behind this screen seemed so good and together before Mr Shabby had a relapse a fews years back and here we went again. Life, it can be an amazing journey, even in hard time when you see the positive in bad situations. God, is Love and when I share from my heart He is there with me. Love, Debbie Reply
I lost my only son to addiction. He tried and tried to stay clean and sober, and just couldn’t. I know it is way too early in Mr. Shabby’s recovery to make a life long decision affecting your live’s now. Leaving it in God’s hands and listening with you heart’s and minds is exactly what you need to do, but that doesn’t mean to stop loving. God’s plan isn’t always what we want but it is always what we need. Hugs to both of you Debbie and tell Mr. Shabby, thank you for sharing with us and to keep doing what he is doing. He will be so much happier and healthier. Reply
Nancy, God bless you! I will tell him and I am sorry for your loss, from the bottom of my heart. There are those that can not seems to break that “strong hold” I know all to well from my oldest son’s father that passed away 2 years ago from an overdose. God bless, each family member going through this type of pain and loss because addiction affects the whole family, and the loss of a loved one stays with us, always! Love, Debbie Reply
I hate drugs! I have a beautiful granddaughter that is rolling in addiction. A year ago this month she was in the hospital fighting for her life. She had overdosed three times and I thought that was a nightmare. But this time she shot up with a dirty needle and developed MRSA which is a staph infection that is resistant to most antibiotics. It affected every system including her heart, lungs, brain, kidneys and skin. Her heart stopped three times. We were told that we needed to discontinue life support as she was on the ventilator and had a brain full of staph. One doctor asked us to give him a few more days. He took her to the OR and replaced her mitral valve. It was a struggle, but she lived!!! She was 29 years old. She came home after three months in ICU and was clean about three months. Addiction called her back. Two days ago she was arrested. She has to stay three to five months in jail. We are looking for a rehab. None will take her due to her medical condition. The jail is taking her to her cardiac surgeon tomorrow. If she passes the physical, there is a rehab in Atlanta that MIGHT take her. If she has destroyed her new mitral valve, her cardiac surgeon will not operate again and she will die. She was showing signs of cardiac problems when she was arrested. I’m a RN. I believe she has destroyed that valve. I know that if she dies, I will see her again and she will be well! She said just last week that she felt like God was calling her home. I love her beyond words. She is my first grandchild. This is breaking my heart. I not only worry about her, I worry about my daughter…her mother. God please! God please help my baby! God, hold her hand. Even if you have to let go of mine, hold hers! Please pray for my baby!!!! Reply
Oh Priscilla, my heart goes out to you and your family. I will pray for her you got it my FB friend. I feel your pain through your words and I can so relate. Addiction is a family affair not just for the addict. Please, keep me posted will you? Love, Debbie
I have been where you are with a relative. It’s too early in his recovery for either of you to make life altering decision. Stay by his side, pray with and for him, but most of all take care of yourself. Prayers for y’all. Reply
Debbie I am Prayin for you an Mr.Shabby continuesly. You are such an uplifting lady….thank you for being you …Debby Reply
Debby, Mr Shabby, who named himself by the way after the page when I first opened it. I didn’t name him that for any reason. We thank you, and do appreciate the thoughtful comments, and the prayers. We know God hears our prayers. We have a lot to be thankful for and we also know that. God bless. Love, Debbie
Debbie, I’m happy to read your posts again. I hope you too are in therapy so the complete healing will happen. Hugs to you. Reply
Ester, thank you. I am glad you are getting my post, I start next month. So, yes I sure will be. Since I do not have my parents here to check on me and insist that I too get some therapy, I thank you for realizing that that goes both ways. We BOTH need it. Love, Debbie Reply
Debbie, Prayers for you and your husband. For God to completely heal him of his addition and then for God to reveal his will for his life and yours. I would love to say so much more but will refrain. Prayers for you both Peggy Reply
Peggy, you could have spoke and said all that you wanted too, that would have been ok with me. Thank you, and I pray that God delivers Mr Shabby from this for good and helps him to understand why it started to begin with, as well as me someone to talk to. It was not easy on my end nor his. The addict and the family all suffer from the effects of the addiction. Love, Debbie Reply
I’m praying hard for you both! With God anything is possible. Best of luck to you both. You deserve it! Reply
Thank you, Susan with all my heart I thank you. We both need therapy it has taken a toll on me as well. So, healing has to come for both of us that is for certain! Love, Debbie Reply
Hi Debbie! I believe that God has brought you and Mr.Shabby this far and that he is going to continue to work thru you both, to continue to bring glory to his Wonderful name! God takes our messes and turns them into messages and beautiful blessings! I just appreciate your willingness to share in all your struggles and heartache, in order to bring hope and faith to others, including me. We all have struggles in life and it helps to keep us going when we see and hear of God’s blessings and miracles! May God continue to bless you and your family , always. Great is his love and faithfulness! Love, Wanda from Texas! Reply
Wanda,first let me say again, yes we all have trials. Without the test there would be no testimonies, right. I’m learning a little bit about myself since Mr Shabby’s been there in the almost 5 weeks. Listening to him has opened my eyes to my own issue that I might not have otherwise seen. God, truly has brought Mr Shabby and I through more than you could ever imagine. We hung in there I believe because of the strong love we have between us. I want him to be healthy and happy I know that 100%. There are many people that do not get our relationship some do. All that matters is we do and God does. Great is thy faithfulness, that is for sure, you are right my friend. Thank you, so much for you comment and God bless you too. Love, Debbie Reply
Debbie, Thank you for sharing your story. I am sure that he has been helpful and insightful for many people. Keep your faith strong and God will take care of you. Love and prayers to both you and Mr. Shabby. Reply
Barbara, thank you. Mr Shabby and I talk everyday and I always look forward to his call. Thank you als0 for the prayers they mean so much to and for us. Love, Debbie Reply
Debbie, my heart aches for you. I know you have been struggling with all that is going on in your life. I know God can change anyone if He chooses. The thing you must remember is that you praise God in the bad times just as you do in the good times. I am praying that God will give you the desires of your heart in this situation, but if God answers your prayer in a different way than you want you must be prepared to accept it. I wish you both the best, and I ask you to cling to God’s hand no matter what. He will never let you down! Love in Christ, Joni Reply
Joni, you are right. I do know that there is a chance God’s will might not be for Mr Shabby and I to be together. It dawned on me a couple of weeks ago and I to our son and Mr Shabby, that all this time I had been praying while he was gone it was to help him, heal him allow him to be happy and live a drug free life. I had not asked God to put us together rather to watch over him, protect him, heal him so that he could be happy again. At this point it is all in God’s hands, and Mr Shabby may never been clean for long, I don’t know. I try not to worry about things that are beyond my control, but I do think about that from time to time. Thank you, Joni for a reality check.And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Love, Debbie Reply
What an amazing testimony you have and now Mr. Shabby as well. God is faithful and we must trust Him even when nothing makes sense. I was so happy to hear that you both may find your way back to each other through marriage. My Mom and stepfather divorced, were apart for several years while I was in high school and then after nearly 10yrs, remarried. They were meant to be together and I pray you and Mr. Shabby will be blessed to start your new lives together once again. God bless you Debbie. Good night FB friend Reply
Deborah, we both do too. Time will tell, Mr Shabby has a lot of things to deal with and you know, I think I do as well. Thank you, for your kind words and I pray that God will allow us to remarry and live the life we were to have through Him. Love, Debbie Reply
Debbie, when you found Mr. shabby I knew God was going to bring you back together! I will be praying for you and Mr. Shabby! Our God is a God of Miracles and he is doing that in your lives now! Believe and Trust ❤️ Judy Reply
Judy, thank you. I will never forget that night. It truly was like looking for a needle in a haystack. That was the odds of us having any idea where to start. I know that he is in a good way right now but, I also know he is in a controlled environment and it makes it easier. They do get one on one help so maybe the reason or reasons why he used will come out and help him to know how to handle that part of the addiction. Love, Debbie Reply
Stay strong Debbie. Keep the faith that better days are a head. God has sustained you and will continue to walk beside you and your family! You guys are in my prayers♡ Reply
Barbara, thank you! I am hanging in there and I too feel there are better days ahead for us, I pray so. Love, Debbie Reply
Debbie, Thank you for sharing your story. My thoughts and prayers are with you both! You are right, we serve an awesome God and His plans are the best. Much love to you and Mr. Shabby. Reply
Angela, thank you sweetheart. We have to both keep our eyes on the Lord that is for sure. It’s been a journey for sure thus far. Love, Debbie Reply
I’m so glad to hear things are looking brighter. I’m excited that Mr Shabby is in a good place to work his recovery. That is amazing. Praying for you and Mr. Shabby that God will continue to,heal and will open all the doors you need. Reply
TD, thank you. He is in a good place, and my prayer is the Mr Shabby leaves there in 48 weeks and never even has the desire to use again. Not just clean but no more desires. It has been a long hard road all the years dealing with his addiction and I’m certain it was not always easy for him. There is a stronghold that I think addicts get and it can be a beast for sure. The devil doesn’t play. Love, Debbie Reply
Thank you Debbie fr sharing. Though it is a testament to your love and trust in God that does not make it easier. It is clear you speak from the heart. Gods blessing on you both. I will be standing in prayer for you both that God provides you with all you need. “In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy path. Proverbs 3:6 Reply
Thank you, Sharon. We will take all the prayers we can get, there is power in prayer! Of that I am certain when I am not always certain about other things. Love, Debbie Reply
Praying for you and your husband to be showered with God’s love and grace and that His will for your life is crystal clear! Reply
Thank you for sharing your heart/your story. The Father’s faithfulness shines through in all that you share. Reply
Thank you, Nancy! Today has been a hard day for me for some reason. Yet, I have put one foot in front of the other and moved forward. Love, Debbie Reply