Do you find yourself thinking where does my day go? Where does the time go? Feeling overwhelmed lately? Well, that is me and I’ve been wanting to ask you if you ever just get that way!?!? I haven’t because my friends and family might read this and I try hard to put up a front and keep it together at all times. But, the truth is it’s hard at times. I am a perfectionist, and I’ve shared that with you guys many times. Those of you who are perfectionist know its stems from something from our childhood, most likely. But, when we get to a certain age me at 68 some of you younger some of you older. We start to realize that our bodies can’t always do things we’ve always done.. Not just our bodies our minds things start to slow down just a little bit. When we try to go at the pace, we went 10 years ago 20 years ago, even five years ago, the mind the body or both might say nope.
I can tell you that over the past year I’ve noticed a huge difference in my stamina, my drive, my want to, and often putting too much pressure on myself to get all the things done that I set goals for. I’ve recognized it over the past several months. And I’ve taken a break from the page off and on. I’ve stopped cooking seven days a week and back down to four other nights, we just eat lightly. Mr. shabby is a big eater. He likes big meals, I absolutely do not I and cleaning up after those big meals. But I did it because he liked it and now I have decided that I didn’t like it so we discussed it and have changed a few things. Yes I am retired, he still works, but as I said, I’m 68. He is 61. I was saying earlier that I personally realize that I have put a lot of pressure on myself to be that perfect person. The perfect friend, the perfect mom, the perfect Nana, the perfect wife, housekeeper, cook, decorator, although I will admit decorating was such a huge passion of mine That has taken a backseat in the past few months. I’ve come to the conclusion that there are a few things that causes to be overwhelmed.
1) setting unrealistic goals for ourselves and not realizing as we age we can’t always do what we used to do. Acceptance is important.
2) as we age we need to set easier and healthier boundaries for ourselves.
3) self-care, that is truly needed for each and everyone of us. Self-care can be anything from. Meditating on God’s word, giving yourself a home facial, taking a nap at the hammock, reading a good book or watching a good movie, or all of the above during your week.
4) running on an empty tank, you have to feed yourself proper nutrition. You also have to give yourself positive talks, and block out negative thinking as much as possible
5) for me last, but not least self-love, it’s crucial. No matter what others may think or feel about you. if you know that you are doing the very best that you can give yourself a hug, love yourself. Show. Respect and love that you show everyone else around you don’t put yourself last.
I hope that if you’re feeling this way as well that you’ll take this summer and go light on yourself. Cut yourself some slack, slow down a bit. enjoy the things around you while they’re there. With that said once again, I will be taking a Facebook pause. That was why my post today. enter for the giveaway because it would be the last one for a while. I’ll pop in and out and I’ll post some stories here maybe weekly just to let you know whats going on in my world. And to find out what’s going on in yours, because I do care about all of you. Have a wonderful evening. We’ll chat again soon.
love,
Debbie